Dating Japan - Meet and Date Japanese Girls

Pair Rooku # 13 - Zoolander

Ok, ok, so these guys might not be dating (at all) but they are definitely BFFs - and begging for a walk-off in their Roppongi world of girls, hairspray, blow waves and animal print...

Note that the guy on the far left has a matching tie.  I wonder why he didn't go the whole zebra hog?  Not ridiculously good looking enough?

And apologies for the dark photo.  But I was off to the after-after party.

Parents Trying Their Luck

If you really are over the whole dating scene, why not get your parents to take care of it for you?  

Divorce Not an Option

Recently I was involved in a discussion about why Japanese women overlook their husband's indiscretions.  I always thought it was just part of the culture - which it still is in some ways - but these days it is mainly due to the fact that a divorce will actually leave the ex-wife with absolutely nothing.  Well she does get the children (it is very rare for custody to go the father - in fact it is very rare full stop for the father to challenge the custody agreement, or to even see the children once the divorce is finalized) but she does not get any alimony from her ex-husband or any other monetary support.

Typically, a Japanese woman will stop working once she is married in order to raise a family and look after the house.  Even is this woman has gone to university and was forging out a career, it is still the expectation that she will stop working.  So a divorced lady who has not been in the work force for many years with children to feed is not an attractive option.

It does not mean they like their husband going outside of the marriage but it means they will put up with it. 

 

Paying the Price

When my partner and I recently asked a group of young men out on the town in Tokyo about the constant stream of gaijin men in Japan who are dating Japanese women who would be considered out of their league back in their home country, this group replied that these men are probably paying for it.

Interestingly, one of them relayed a story very similar to this one, about a friend of theirs who was a "photographer" saying he was engaged to a "hot model", which ended in tears - his tears.  We all thought for a few minutes that this friend was the person my partner had spoken with but there were a few points of difference.  Apparently this lass was engaged to a number of different boys and was using things such as the language barrier to her full advantage, buying time in order to pick and choose.

Still it goes to show that Japanese women aren't as naive as a lot of foreign men presume them to be. And that maybe these gaijin guys need to learn to tighten their lips to avoid embarrassment until they are sure it is for real.