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I was again reading through the personal ads in Metropolis when I believe I have yet again I was again reading through the personal ads in Metropolis when I believe I have yet again stumbled across someone I know.  Only this time, the male in question is serious about their ad and it isn't someone I know so well that I can have a friendly dig at or even mention that I put two and two together.

Good on him and I wish him the best of luck.  He is a lovely, handsome boy with so much going for him.  When I think about it, I am not so surprised he is giving this a try because he and I have briefly chatted about how difficult it can be to meet somebody in Japan who is prepared to have a serious relationship.

Oh and it wasn't any tequila swilling antics that gave this boy away either.  It was his email address.

Talk versus Text Mark 2: Taking to the Train

Seeing as I had posted a clip about couples texting on dates, I thought readers should see the notion of it in action - for real.  On the Chuo Line, heading back to Tokyo, I saw this loving couple.  

So obviously in love, it was blinding!  Could not keep their hands off their mobile phones each other.  In all seriousness, the only inkling that they were a couple was the brief hand holding I had witnessed when I got onto the carriage.  If I had not have seen that, I would have simply assumed they were two strangers simply going about their own journeys.

In the space of about 15 minutes, they did not glance up from their mobile phones once.

Read Between The Lines

As a follow on from this post regarding the personal ads in Japan's illustrious gaijin/English magazines, I was flicking through the most recent edition of Tokyo's Metropolis (oictured) and this personal caught my eye:

"Two lonely guys, one American and one Australian, seeking two single nonsmoking girls to enjoy the big city.  We would love to eat a keeki set and have good conversation with the both of you.  Let's enjoy each other!"

Now of course there is nothing wrong with this but when I saw the email address in which to reply to, I laughed my ass off.  It started off as "japanfever69@...."  I bet these boys are as serious about good conversation as President Bush was about learning to read.

I would not be surprised if these guys have a touch of Foreigner Fever either.

 

Just a Gigolo

Gigolo or simply a teacher getting what he can?  Foreign guys in Japan, who have come over here to teach English, and end up doing a lot more than the usual "Hello, how are you?" in their standard lesson.  What do you think?  I know not all men teaching English here are doing that, but I do know a portion of them are and I know this because some of them are part of my social circle and have told me themselves. Under the cover of a private lesson, done in either the student's home or the teacher's home, I have been privy to many a tale about this -  when the male teacher leaves the lesson so late that last trains have already left, or times when the bored housewife has initiated the more intimate stuff. Private classes where English vocab is the last thing on anyone's mind, and the hourly fee (usually between ¥3000-¥5000) is still paid for said "lesson."

Cheap tricks if you ask me!

Dating Survival Guide #5 - Mad Men

It's not just the Japanese women who can get too emotionally invested in their gaijin boyfriends in a very short period of time.  Some of the men have easy access to their crazy side also.

Suitor1 was a Japanese-Brazillian guy who seemed quite okay until Friend1 didn't return a couple of phonecalls. The reason she hadn't done so because she wasnt in the country didnt matter. The evening upon Friend1's return, she bumped into him at a bar, where he promptly began telling her that he was dying on the inside from her display of coldness. In a matter of minutes and a few martinis downed on his behalf his story changed somewhat.  Apparently he was now literally dying - from a brain tumour -  and so he told her he wouldn't need her anyway.  

Suitor2, another Japanese-Brazillian, got the flick from Friend2 based on his reaction to seeing her having a drink with a male friend - a friend she had known since school -  and that was to pull up a chair opposite her, grab the girl next to him and start kissing her in front of Friend2's eyes.  All Friend 2 and her mate could do was grab their drinks and change position at the bar.  The irony of it was, just 5 minutes before this occurred, Friend2 had been saying that she wasn't too sure about this guy. All her mate could say was "Looks like the decision has been made a lot easier!" 

Suitor3 and Friend3 had been out on a few dates.   Originally Friend3 had resisted this Japanese guys advances, but in the end she thought "Why not?  He at least gets 10 points for persistence!"  The first 3 dates were great.  Yet with Date 4 came a revelation she wasn't quite expecting.  Friend3 found out he had a girlfriend. Kind of shattering, especially as she found out while he holding her hand while he was telling the guy sitting opposite her about his girlfriend.  The issue here wasn't that Suitor3 was too emotionally invested, but perhaps that he was not invested enough on any level.

Pair Rooku #10 - The First Couple of Running

This photo was originally posted by The Oregonian, back in October 2007, after the Portland Marathon.

Mayu Horiki came first for the ladies' event and her hubby Nobuaito was third for the men's event.  The couple definitely seem to have a yin and a yang thing going on with their choice of running wear, and the matching medals are just the icing on the outfit cake.  Points are subtracted though because ultimately Nobuaito's  punch in the air does not have as much enthusiasm as his wife's does. Yes he may have just run a marathon but perfecting the Pair Rooku is serious stuff.

That's Japan Baby #8 - The Mature Porn Star

 This just in from The Age newspaper, Melbourne, Australia.  Introducing  Shigeo Tokdua, Japan's aging porn star. Shigeo is a spritely 74 year-old  who, although may "take a while to get going" is revitalising the older  population of Japan when it comes to the bedroom.

 Happily married with 2 children and 1 grandchild Shigeo admits his family  do not know of his double life but "his wife of 45 years suspected he  played a minor role in pornographic movies but had not brought up  the subject."

 Good on him for having a dig, but what a shame he can't share his  work with his wife!  After all,  Big Dog has gotta eat.

  

Seduction of the English Language

I bet this hooker teacher is popular! These clips are some sort of hooker training video, in which English sex expressions are emphasized and practiced - perhaps in hope of catching the ever-alluring gaijin boyfriend?

Yet I am not sure how well "my grandmother gives good head" would go down with a gaijin boyfriend, or that bringing any family member into dirty talk is really at all appropriate.

Come on Toshi, come on!  What do you think?

Pair Rooku #7 - When the Fur Flies

On Sesame Street, Big Bird is wondering where the hell Elmo is...

Little does he know that Elmo prefers hanging out in Harajuku with The Pink Panther, buying snacks at the local Lawson's and posing for photos taken by the curious.  I would love to see what they come up with for Halloween seeing as this is just an ordinary Saturday night in downtown Tokyo.

How cute do they look?!

Dating Survival Guide #4 - Mrs or Mistress?

Recently, a friend of mine was quite ecstatic when she finally kissed the man of her Japanese dreams during a night out full of drinks and dance  She called me up the next morning to give me the goss.  Quick bit of background: this has been a loooooong time coming.  There has been flirting, phone calls, text messages of broken English and even more broken Japanese, he even gave her his favourite jacket, and lots more flirting.

Happy Friend: "So me and the DJ finally had a kiss last night."

Me: "Excellent, so what happened?"

HF: "Well after a few rounds of tequila, he kissed me!  We were just enjoying the music, having lots of fun and it just happened.  I am so happy, I can't believe it!  How long have I been wanting this to happen???"

Me: "Well congrats, he is a lovely guy with great style as well.  Awesome stuff.  What next?"

HF: "Um well that is just it.  I have to ask you something.  Did you ever know whether or not he had a girlfriend?"

Me: "Nah, he has never mentioned one, he is always out with his other DJ mates.  Never even seen him talk to another girl but you.  Why?"

HF: "Um it is just that after he kissed me, he then held up his ring finger and said "You know I am married right?" To which I replied "Didn't even know you had a girlfriend."  That is when Melissa (another friend) came up to us and said to the DJ "I told you she had no idea.  You never told her?"  He just shrugged his shoulders at me.  I was so drunk I let it pass and just decided to enjoy the night but now it is bothering me."

Me: "Have you spoken to him today?"

HF: "Well that is just it.  He has been texting as though nothing has changed and says he can't wait to see me."

Anyway, my Happy Friend was a little bit shaken by this news, as we all were.  In the 5 years I have known this guy - and I thought I knew him pretty well - I had NO IDEA whatsoever he was even seeing someone, let alone married. In typical Japanese fashion, he never talks about her or takes her out with him.  Otherwise I would not have actively encouraged my mate to pursue him and vice versa!  

It is quite common for Japanese men to look outside their marriage for sex and have girlfriends/mistresses.  Although the wives may not like this, it is something they accept.  The only people that struggle with it are us - the foreigners.

So now my friend must make a decision. Mrs or Mistress?  Well the role of Mrs is taken, leaving one option only.  Whether or not she is happy with that is up to her.